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• Are you often uncomfortable in situations when you are surrounded by people you don't know$%:
• Do you often wish you could walk up to a stranger and begin a conversation$%:
• Are you longing to cultivate new relationships in your professional life$%:
• Is being connected to people important to you, but you just are not sure how to do it$%:

Whether you are wanting to boost your career, need to market your services, or just want to make new friends, you will have to reach out to people and cultivate relationships. Relationships, whether personal or professional develop over time and are based on trust. But first impressions are critical, as they determine whether you will have the opportunity to develop a stronger relationship. So how do you do it$%: How do you connect with a total stranger, make a great first impression and have them wanting to talk to you again$%:

Get Prepared for Developing New Relationships

1. Define who you are: your purpose, passion, gifts, strengths, qualities, accomplishments... Who are you really$%:
2. Identify who you would like to meet: What type of people, including their qualities, traits, values, needs and interests would you like to develop a relationship with$%:
3. Clarify what you want: your intention in getting noticed, known and connected. Why is it important to you$%: What do you hope to gain$%: To offer$%:
4. Create your own mission statement: how you lead your own life, what you want for your life and how you want to treat others.
5. Develop your message: who you are, what you are all about and how you want to come across. When complete, it will feel right to say and your passion will ignite when you are saying it - even if you are shy!
6. Develop outstanding communication skills: Conversational skills project your personality, show your sincerity, and make people feel comfortable with you, and you with them.
7. Create and define your image: You must not only make your exterior appealing to yourself, but also make it a genuine reflection of your inner self. If you feel confident, you will be more confident.

1. Focus on others: If you are shy, the best way to approach a stranger is to keep the focus on them, not you. Ask questions, focusing on how you can make them "feel special".
2. Begin to meet new people: Challenge yourself to meet at least one new person each week. It could be a referral from someone you already know or someone you meet on line at the grocery store. The more you try approaching new people, the easier it becomes.
3. Strengthen existing relationships: Contact people you know and ask them out for coffee or lunch. Ask them what is going on in their life and tell them what you are up to. Also tell them the type of people you are interested in meeting. Ask them if they would be willing to introduce you to who they know.
4. Use e-mail as your first introduction: as it allows you to take your time to craft your message. Be brief and to the point - including how you heard about them and why you are interested in talking to them or meeting them. If they respond, the lines of communication are now open.
5. Attend events and seminars: that are coordinated within your community, the local chapter of the professional association that relates to your field, through the continuing education arm of your local college or university... Attending a meeting gives you an agenda, a reason to be there. It allows plenty of time to observe who is in attendance and decide who you would like to meet. It also gets you noticed even if you don't say anything.
6. Look for guides, teachers and promoters: Friends, family, colleagues and coaches who can support, motivate and help you create an atmosphere that respects who you are while challenging you to do more than you think you can.